Saturday, 1 February 2014

Discover the Joy of Trust In Relationships

Trust is a treasure of our daily life. However, we do not understand its true value. It is generally seen that trust in our daily lives is disappearing fast. Why have we become so suspicious that we can  not enter into meaningful relationships with each other? Why can we not behave as normal human beings? After all when we were born as human beings the first lesson we learnt was that we should trust each other. However, as our lives progressed slowly, trust began to diminish. Our childhood innocence gave way to calculations in which there was no place for trust. Today, there appears to be huge trust deficit in all walks of  life. Relationships is an area which has come under the cloud of mistrust in an increasing manner.

Trust in each other gives strength and vitality to our relationships .It gives us more happiness, which is priceless. It gives joy all around, and life appears to be brighter and brighter. Its fragrance spreads far and wide. Trust keeps us in a positive mental framework. When you trust each other you feel so confident. You feel so safe, and secure. The feeling of believing others is electrifying. It not only provides sense of security but provides us new zeal to fight the vagaries of life. We develop a strong life-force, as a result of which we muster up courage to face the daily challenges.

Trusting each other gives us a sense of deep bonding. It signifies that we are united to fight the battles ahead. Trust is synonymous for warmth in our relationships. With so many advantages of trusting each other how do we feel when germs of mistrust appear? Life appears to be devoid of colour, and it lacks spontaneity. We behave with each other mechanically like robots. We constantly live with fear and tensions We live in our shells and we are unable to share with each other. We live in a suppressed condition, which inhibits the growth of our personality. As a result, we are not able to contribute to the betterment of our society. We are not able to create a conducive atmosphere where there is transparency all around.

A society whose foundation is built upon trust is progressive and dynamic. Lack of trust signifies decay in the society. A lot of conscious efforts has to be made in this direction. We need to nurture our relationships with care. We should not let our ego destroy our relationships. This requires constant efforts to know each other fully. The more we  try  to explore each other, the more we can handle each others’ contradictions well. In the process , more trust we will be able to generate..

 Most of the problems in relationships occur because because we can not handle each others’ contradictions well. It is very strange that we ourself do not want to open up.  We   are not able to overcome our mental blocks.  As a result, we tend to look others with doubt. We live in our own world of likes and dislikes, as we are not able to create a right balance. No doubt, people tend to view us with suspicion. If we are balanced in our thoughts and actions then people will trust us .For this we must shed the habit of finding fault with others, even on a slight pretext. Instead, we should make others aware of their positive traits and strengths. This will enhance our credibility, which will lead to building up trust.

For building up trust, we must not indulge in unhealthy competition by trying to outwit each other. Instead we should master the art of rejoicing in the happiness of others. Good performance of others should spur us to act in a positive manner. Being jealous and competitive will be of no use as it will lead to destroying trust. No one is perfect in today’s era. If there would have been perfection all around, then there would have been no mistrust.

We must build up trust against the background of limitations in our personalities. Mistrust is itself a reflection of our inadequacies and imperfections in handling our relationships with finesse. After all reform begins at  home. Let us reform ourself by giving time to our relationships and thinking of ways to strengthen them. Trust will then follow naturally

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