Trust is a treasure of our daily
life. However, we do not understand its true value. It is generally seen that
trust in our daily lives is disappearing fast. Why have we become so suspicious
that we can not enter into meaningful
relationships with each other? Why can we not behave as normal human beings?
After all when we were born as human beings the first lesson we learnt was that
we should trust each other. However, as our lives progressed slowly, trust
began to diminish. Our childhood innocence gave way to calculations in which
there was no place for trust. Today, there appears to be huge trust deficit in
all walks of life. Relationships is an
area which has come under the cloud of mistrust in an increasing manner.
Trust in each other gives
strength and vitality to our relationships .It gives us more happiness, which
is priceless. It gives joy all around, and life appears to be brighter and
brighter. Its fragrance spreads far and wide. Trust keeps us in a positive
mental framework. When you trust each other you feel so confident. You feel so
safe, and secure. The feeling of believing others is electrifying. It not only
provides sense of security but provides us new zeal to fight the vagaries of
life. We develop a strong life-force, as a result of which we muster up courage
to face the daily challenges.
Trusting each other gives us a
sense of deep bonding. It signifies that we are united to fight the battles
ahead. Trust is synonymous for warmth in our relationships. With so many
advantages of trusting each other how do we feel when germs of mistrust appear?
Life appears to be devoid of colour, and it lacks spontaneity. We behave with
each other mechanically like robots. We constantly live with fear and tensions We
live in our shells and we are unable to share with each other. We live in a
suppressed condition, which inhibits the growth of our personality. As a
result, we are not able to contribute to the betterment of our society. We are
not able to create a conducive atmosphere where there is transparency all
around.
A society whose foundation is
built upon trust is progressive and dynamic. Lack of trust signifies decay in
the society. A lot of conscious efforts has to be made in this direction. We
need to nurture our relationships with care. We should not let our ego destroy
our relationships. This requires constant efforts to know each other fully. The
more we try to explore each other, the more we can handle
each others’ contradictions well. In the process , more trust we will be able
to generate..
Most of the problems in relationships occur
because because we can not handle each others’ contradictions well. It is very
strange that we ourself do not want to open up. We are not able to overcome our mental blocks. As a result, we tend to look others with
doubt. We live in our own world of likes and dislikes, as we are not able to
create a right balance. No doubt, people tend to view us with suspicion. If we
are balanced in our thoughts and actions then people will trust us .For this we
must shed the habit of finding fault with others, even on a slight pretext. Instead,
we should make others aware of their positive traits and strengths. This will
enhance our credibility, which will lead to building up trust.
For building up trust, we must not indulge in
unhealthy competition by trying to outwit each other. Instead we should master the
art of rejoicing in the happiness of others. Good performance of others should spur
us to act in a positive manner. Being jealous and competitive will be of no use
as it will lead to destroying trust. No one is perfect in today’s era. If there
would have been perfection all around, then there would have been no mistrust.
We must build up trust against
the background of limitations in our personalities. Mistrust is itself a
reflection of our inadequacies and imperfections in handling our relationships
with finesse. After all reform begins at home. Let us reform ourself by giving time to
our relationships and thinking of ways to strengthen them. Trust will then
follow naturally
