Are We Trusting Technology More Than Ourself ?

                           

It appears that we are slowly trusting technology more as an effective tool to trust human beings. We are driven by our passion for technology, which makes us believe that we can form good bonds with people. In this pursuit, we don’t trust ourself to act as a bridge in forming human bonds. As a result, technology is becoming dominant over our lives, and we are becoming its slave. We feel restless when we don’t see mobile phone in our hand. That restlessness is not so much evident when our near and dear ones are not with us. We tend to trust that electronic communication will help us maintain strong contacts with them. We don’t feel the necessary urge to see them in front of us. We also don’t make efforts to visit them. We feel that it will be merely a wastage of time. We think that why not utilize the limited time by surfing  on the social networking sites?

The first thing we search for religiously in the morning, is our mobile phone, prayers come after that, forget the people who are with us. Social networking sites, and other applications are becoming our obsession.  When we travel, we don’t make efforts to talk to the people, and develop   bonds. Instead, we depend on technology to build up contacts with others. We are oblivious of our immediate environment, where we see other people themselves busy with their mobile phone. So, why should we take any initiative in making efforts to engage in conversations? The same thing is visible in parties, conferences, events, etc where many people tend to withdraw from making conversations on the pretext that they are busy with their phones. This lazy approach in depending on technology does not help in building up strong heart-to-heart bonds. We tend to believe that why make unnecessary efforts in intermingling with people of different temperaments, so we take  recourse to technology to hide our inabilities to accept different kinds of people. As a result, we  are not able to nurture our relationships. A layer of superficiality is clearly visible, which makes others also realise that through electronic communication, we are just maintaining formality in our relationship.

At work-place, even for internal communication, we depend on electronic form, instead of making efforts to visit our colleagues. In conflicting situations, this approach  doesn’t resolve the issues, as our egos destroy the chance of conflict resolution as  we avoid making face-to-face conversation with a strong desire for genuine dialogue. For an  organisation’s  external communication, we have a strong feeling that electronic communication will  be sufficient to achieve our purpose. But, we are mistaken. I feel personal visits are important in many of the cases to enhance an organisations’s profile, or achieve the project targets. Electronic communication can be successful here only if the self-motivated human efforts are made in taking pains to visit people.

The politicians are making these days frenetic efforts to utilise electronic communication to build up their popularity amongst the people. They don’t make efforts to personally visit the people in their constitutency, and form one-to-one contact. As a result, I feel, the trust level of the people in the politicians does not nurture. Electronic communication can only be a momentary way to win over the hearts of the people. The long-term benefits can be maintained only if the politicians show their sincerity in making visits, and follow up with the people. The people today are smart to understand the limits of electronic communication, as it can be used  to create a situation, which at the ground-level does not exist.

I think the tendency to trust on technology, and not in us is limiting the growth of our personalities. I feel   our full potentialities can emerge only if  we speak, express and maintain face-to-face contacts through our inner urge to indulge in sincere heart-to –heart dialogue. Our presence itself can create an  effective aura which can attract people around us, so that ever-lasting relationships are built upon which can give a real joy in life. Technology can hide our inabilities, biases in personality etc, which can only hamper our personal growth, as a result of which we are not able to learn, and evolve. If we continue to be dictated by technology, then we will merely become  mechanical robots. So, let us develop the right  wisdom to use technology judiciously.

  

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Discover the Joy of Trust In Relationships

                                

Trust is a treasure of our daily life. However, we do not understand its true value. It is generally seen that trust in our daily lives is disappearing fast. Why have we become so suspicious that we can  not enter into meaningful relationships with each other? Why can we not behave as normal human beings? After all when we were born as human beings the first lesson we learnt was that we should trust each other. However, as our lives progressed slowly, trust began to diminish. Our childhood innocence gave way to calculations in which there was no place for trust. Today, there appears to be huge trust deficit in all walks of  life. Relationships is an area which has come under the cloud of mistrust in an increasing manner.

Trust in each other gives strength and vitality to our relationships .It gives us more happiness, which is priceless. It gives joy all around, and life appears to be brighter and brighter. Its fragrance spreads far and wide. Trust keeps us in a positive mental framework. When you trust each other you feel so confident. You feel so safe, and secure. The feeling of believing others is electrifying. It not only provides sense of security but provides us new zeal to fight the vagaries of life. We develop a strong life-force, as a result of which we muster up courage to face the daily challenges.

Trusting each other gives us a sense of deep bonding. It signifies that we are united to fight the battles ahead. Trust is synonymous for warmth in our relationships. With so many advantages of trusting each other how do we feel when germs of mistrust appear? Life appears to be devoid of colour, and it lacks spontaneity. We behave with each other mechanically like robots. We constantly live with fear and tensions We live in our shells and we are unable to share with each other. We live in a suppressed condition, which inhibits the growth of our personality. As a result, we are not able to contribute to the betterment of our society. We are not able to create a conducive atmosphere where there is transparency all around.

A society whose foundation is built upon trust is progressive and dynamic. Lack of trust signifies decay in the society. A lot of conscious efforts has to be made in this direction. We need to nurture our relationships with care. We should not let our ego destroy our relationships. This requires constant efforts to know each other fully. The more we  try  to explore each other, the more we can handle each others’ contradictions well. In the process , more trust we will be able to generate..

 Most of the problems in relationships occur because because we can not handle each others’ contradictions well. It is very strange that we ourself do not want to open up.  We   are not able to overcome our mental blocks.  As a result, we tend to look others with doubt. We live in our own world of likes and dislikes, as we are not able to create a right balance. No doubt, people tend to view us with suspicion. If we are balanced in our thoughts and actions then people will trust us .For this we must shed the habit of finding fault with others, even on a slight pretext. Instead, we should make others aware of their positive traits and strengths. This will enhance our credibility, which will lead to building up trust.

For building up trust, we must not indulge in unhealthy competition by trying to outwit each other. Instead we should master the art of rejoicing in the happiness of others. Good performance of others should spur us to act in a positive manner. Being jealous and competitive will be of no use as it will lead to destroying trust. No one is perfect in today’s era. If there would have been perfection all around, then there would have been no mistrust.

We must build up trust against the background of limitations in our personalities. Mistrust is itself a reflection of our inadequacies and imperfections in handling our relationships with finesse. After all reform begins at  home. Let us reform ourself by giving time to our relationships and thinking of ways to strengthen them. Trust will then follow naturally