Video on School Education and Trust

An interesting video on the importance of trust in school education.I feel trust is very important in school education,at a time when value education is given importance in the school cirrucula.Trust-building component should be an important component of value education in the schools so that the schools  give more emphasis more on behavioural aspects of child development.  

Do We Have Trust In Our Capabilities?

Often, we like comparing ourselves with others. We  lament that we are inferior to those, whom, we consider are success in their lives. Money, power and influence are generally  our common yard-sticks to judge others’ success.  While comparing  ourselves with others, we tend to have more trust in the capabilities of others. Our admiration of  our role-models is generally built on our inferiority complex, with which we are often gripped with. We are not able to break the shackles of our complex, because we don’t have trust in our capabilities.

Having not  trust  in our capabilities hampers our ability to triumph in our daily life. We develop stress, fear, and we are not able to surge ahead. At family level, we fail to become a role model for other family members, as we are ourself  not sure of our capabilities. Our ability to generate happiness for our family is crippled due to lack of trust in ourself to transcend our weaknesses, and think for others’ happiness. At society level, our contribution in making a better society does not come up to the surface as we don’t have trust in our potentialities to think beyond ourself.

The achievers in every walk of life have triumphed because of their trust in their capabilities. They have overcome their limitations because they have trust in their capabilities to overcome all odds. The society today needs people who have trust in their capabilities. The only change will come, and our institutions will work. The leaders will emerge only when people are given encouragement to develop their attitude to trust  their capabilities. Then only such people will develop leadership traits, and mobilize the people around for a common objective, thus setting up an example for others. At school level, the value education component  must give due emphasis on trust-building component. Children’s thinking must be developed through creative ways so that they  feel confident to develop trust in their capabilities.

How can one develop trust in  one’s capabilities at individual level? A spiritual practice can help in bringing the change in one’s thinking. Courage, confidence and high-life condition will follow naturally, which will bolster a person to trust his capabilities. If a person can trust in his capabilities, then he will usher change in the society by encouraging others to trust their capabilities. The highest potentialities of people then emerge, which can revolutionise our socio-economic system.

                          Can We Help Our Children Grow Up in Trust?

Today, my teenage daughter, declared at the top of her voice, that we as parents don’t trust her. I was shocked to hear this. Obviously ,her pent-up feelings found an outlet in her outburst. Since many days, we were trying to pose  a lot of uncomfortable  questions to her, which were making her disturbed. She didn’t like us following her friends, she didn’t like us forcing her to study, she didn’t like us to intrude in her private space which she was creating fro herself. This experience was a wake-up call for me,and I undertook a deeper introspection, which provided me new insights. I am sure many of the parents may be facing similar-like situation.

As parents, we don’t find time for our children. We don’t understand the need for spending quality time with them. In whatever time we spend, we force our fixed notions of life on them. We force our judgement on them on many occasions. We tell them what is right, and what is wrong from our own perspective. We don’t present the facts in a balanced way, which make the children develop their faculties to judge. We analyse the situation from a biased perspective, and force our children to accept our view-point. All this destroys the chances of trust-building.

Children can develop trust in parents when they see their parents as friends. This change in perspective requires much efforts from the parents. The children can trust us when we have a firm belief in their potentialities, and we stop comparing them with other children. The moment we realize that our children have unique potential, which can be nurtured by us in their field of his/her choice, the seeds of trust sprout up. We get the right wisdom to deal with our child, and the mutual trust begins to develop. Our huge expectations from our child begins to diminish, and we try to locate the treasure in our child by looking what lies within our child. We are not bothered by our child’s external behaviour, simply because we ourselves change our thinking.

Helping children to grow up in trust will be a big challenge for the parents in the times to come. Simply because trust-deficit in all walks of life is increasing. If we make efforts make children grow up in trust, then we can make immense contribution in creating of a new society. Our children can be the biggest ambassadors of trust-building when they mature as adults. Their lessons in trust-building will become an effective guide for them to become change-agents in their fields of profession.